On Healthy Attachment

Many Buddhists regard attachment as something negative and to be avoided. However, attachment can be valuable and healthy, especially when it nurtures meaningful relationships and a sense of belonging. Our attachments to family, friends, community, and familiar places form the fabric of our lives, giving us a sense of identity, purpose, and stability. While attachment in the Buddhist context is often discussed in terms of how clinging to impermanent things can lead to suffering, there is also room to see attachment positively — especially if balanced with a willingness to accept change and embrace impermanence.

1. The Value of Attachment in Relationships

• Connection and support: Healthy attachment to loved ones, whether it be family, children, or friends, provides emotional support, affection, and a sense of security. These bonds foster trust, cooperation, and resilience in times of hardship.
• Motivation for growth and care: Our attachment to others can inspire us to become more compassionate, responsible, and caring individuals. For instance, attachment to one’s children encourages nurturing behavior, guiding them through life with love and support.
• Community and belonging: Attachment to a community or neighborhood helps cultivate a sense of belonging and shared purpose. Being rooted in a place or group creates opportunities for…